Childhood Emotional Neglect Causes a Child to Develop Low Self Esteem

#narcissism childhood childhood emotional neglect low self esteem selfesteem Jun 16, 2021

Maybe your childhood did impact your self esteem.

Maybe it is hard for you to love yourself because of the past. Maybe you struggle more than someone else, but that does not mean greatness is not within you. There is greatness within you but you MUST work at achieving a sense of greatness by overcoming challenges and obstacles and by never giving up. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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Emotional childhood neglect causes a child to develop low self esteem.

Unpredictable childhood homes rob a child of the ability to feel worthy, enough, loveable and like who they are matters. Self esteem improvement relies on our ability to love ourselves and especially after suffering from emotional abuse like narcissistic abuse. But, in order to achieve greatness, there comes a time when we must say, NO MORE EXCUSES!

Overcome the Past

If we do not overcome the past and learn to develop life skills to overcome adult children of alcoholic issues or narcissistic abuse by parents, or whatever another dysfunctional toxic family issue we have had to deal with, we stay stuck in lack. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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Children who do not feel connected to their parents in a loving way, fail to feel worthy of love. What makes a child feel worthy of love is in fact, the quality of the bond between them and their parents. Without proper bonding, children grow feeling unnaturally disconnected from their parents, which creates attachment traumas. Unresolved, these attachment traumas can lead to all sorts of emotional issues like, codependency, self-sabotage, low self esteem, and a plethora of other issues.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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Self esteem is not about who you are it is about HOW you are. Self esteem is NOT a given. It must be achieved and we achieve self-esteem by setting goals and working every day to achieve them. We learn to STOP making excuses for why we can't be GREAT because the potential to be GREAT lies within all of us.

Learn What You Never Learned

It is possible to learn how to overcome childhood emotional neglect and to regain a healthy sense of self. It is possible to make yourself a priority and do what needs to get done to heal from a lack of maternal bonding.

Remember that its not you that's broken -- it's your programming
Remember that nurturing bonds are really nonnegotiables and if you never received the bonding you deserved, of course you're going to struggle with things like loving yourself and setting boundaries
Remember that it is possible to learn how to stop focusing on others and start focusing on yourself

Action Steps

Find a community of people that understand what you are going through like CODA, ACA, or AL-ANON. These are great places to begin learning to understand you are not alone.

Online support groups are highly popular and because you can remain anonymous in many of these groups, you don't even have to participate. You can sit back and read about what others have been through while you also learn from other members regarding what skills they've developed to help them improve their lives.

Find a trauma informed therapist that understands things like abandonment and attachment trauma. Interview therapists and make sure you are good fit.

Take up meditation, yoga and activities that help support YOU from the inside out. Experiences that are designed to encourage you to connect with yourself are key.

Try journaling about your emotions each and every day. Find ways to express yourself through writing. Allow your spirit to do the talking. You will be surprised what you discover.

These are just a few things you can do to help you better connect with you!

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Lisa A. Romano was voted the #1 Most Influential Person of 2020 by Digital Journal and one of the top 10 Most Inspirational Women of 2021 according to Yahoo Finance. She is a Life Coach and Bestselling Author who specializes in Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery. Her YouTube Channel has over 400K subscribers, and her 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program has helped thousands, including psychologists and even neuroscientists, release painful emotions from the past. Romano’s approach is seen as groundbreaking and highly effective for creating the inner transformations all human beings are capable of. To learn more about Lisa and her online programs, books, speaking events and support groups, visit https://www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp